He seems to be going with you because he thinks you own a business [ have money ].
He is not being 'up front' with you about his past [a big red flag for me].
Tell him your financial situation honestly (maybe he's pursuing you mistakenly as another cash cow! Depending on how such conversations go, you can more realistically assess whether to stay or move on.
Isadora You guys are definitely wrong for each other, because you both expect the other one to bring in the money and afford an elevated lifestyle beyond your own means!
But on the other, maybe I'm old fashioned and I don't want to waste my time with a many who isn't a traditional earner. I like Mike It sounds like neither of you has been completely honest with the other - you have both misrepresented yourselves, so I can't see this relationship going anywhere good from here.
If he is lying about how he made his money at this early stage then to me that is a red flag.
On one hand, if I hadn't gone to the courthouse, I wouldn't know any of this.
If he's lying to you about something like this, then there are more lies to come.After I talked with some friends, I went to the courthouse and reviewed Mike's public divorce file.I just want to know if his ex will be knocking on the door for support and money and taking away from the life Mike and I will have. While I won't go into details, what I read in the file was not the Mike I know and, his wife gave him the house, the country club membership and she pays him child support. She has a successful business, is well educated and she's younger than me.He may think you have more money than you do and be looking for a replacement for his ex to bleed dry.I think I would steer clear and look for someone more honest.
Basing a relationship on a 'romance or fantasy' --on what you hope this guy will be- is a train wreck waiting to happen !! People [men and women] lie when they see that they can 'get something' from the other person. Phil, and see all the gullible women who 'fall for men' and then are conned out of money, their homes, everything. That he wasn't telling you the truth of how he acquired his money !!