I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.
Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.
Online dating is also faster than waiting for your best friend to fix you up with her cousin, or someone from her yoga class.
Heck, you don't even have to grieve a death or divorce; just jump right back in the mix and sort them out as you go along; sounds like take-out doesn't it? Like anything else in life online dating has its pros and cons, but it's too damn fast, and when something comes too fast and comparably easy, we don't trust it—it can't be a good thing—it can't be authentic.
In my zeal to find out as much about Andy's good fortune as possible I innocently asked: "So, how'd you two meet? Realizing I stepped into something awkward I thought to myself: OMG they met in prison; or on a street corner.
After a few seconds passed and all of our skin tones returned to a normal light pinkish color Carol responded: "Well, uh, we met online...that's right...online...the computer." Okay, so it was a pretty good impression of Annie Hall, but why all the fuss? Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention?
This makes sense in part, because men tend to be more visual.
Online dating is also convenient, or I should say as convenient as you'd like it to be.
Married 20 years and now unfortunately facing divorce, I'll try predictability and speed instead if I find myself single again.
I prefer the "control over the romantic process" (as you phrase it) that the new technology gives us because I've found the process didn't work out well the first time, and I have no desire to wait until I'm retired for it to work again. There are no bad ways to find love, and no real reason to compare the bar versus the dating sites. Many people do not have the ability to be at places where they have the opportunity to meet the opposite sex.
Before the internet were the "lonely hearts" columns of the newspapers, which served the same purpose but at the speed of snail mail.
Folks used to be embarrassed to admit using those ads, too.
Neverthless, most people tend to date someone within a few miles of their home.